beginning of our relationship
When I first started dating my now husband, I didn’t think a lot about our cultural differences.
Sure some of them were pretty obvious, but nothing major.
But it wasn’t something that it wouldn’t let me sleep at night.
In fact, those little differences were something exciting because it was something new.
Also, as we met in Montana, it helped to hide those differences because the amount of Hispanic population is really low.
Life after marriage
So now, after being together for 4 years and having our first child, we’ve realized that our cultural differences have a certain impact on our marriage.
Is not necessarily a bad impact, but the two of us had to change or compromise for certain things that probably if we had married to someone from our same cultural backgro, we wouldn’t’ have done.
The first thing that we had to adapt to was food.
Everything related to the kind of food that we used to eat by ourselves and the time of the day that we used to do it has changed.
Things that have changed for us in our marriage
- Our breakfast got heavier (not as heavy as brunch but we eat a good amount of food). In Mexico, I used to have a heavier breakfast and here in the USA, I noticed that people tend to skip it. So we found an amount of food that would work for the two of us without overeating or feel hungry after eating breakfast.
- Dinner time starts later. In the USA, dinner time starts at 4 pm but again, we had to adjust because for me dinner was the lightest meal of the day and would start around 6 or 7 pm. So we both had to compromise.
- We celebrate more holidays. Mexico has about 16 statutory holidays (plus over 30 observances ) during the year, and the US has about 12 federal holidays. When we got married, we agreed that we would try to keep as many traditions from both sides as possible.
- Language barrier. My family and I are Spanish native speakers and my husband and his family only speak English. Therefore, it added a barrier to our families.
- Relationship with our parents. The relationship that I have with my mom it’s pretty close, I talk to her every day over WhatsApp or Facebook and Jon talks to his parents as much as he considers it’s enough (about a couple times a month maybe).
After all, each relationship regardless of cultural differences needs love, comprehension, friendship, complicity, and compromise if you really want it to work.
It won’t be easy, but it’s worth it.
Peace and Love!!